Making the First Move

Guys, with all the crap thats going around these days its tough to know what will work and what won’t work. I’ve read and been through it all. I’ve read Neil Strausse (who makes some valid points) and done some “work” of the Pick-up Artist. I’ve learned one thing, be yourself… now when most people hear this they think.

“Hey! He said, “Be yourself.” So that means she’ll love who I am. So I’ll sit here till she comes over.”

WRONG.

I’m not saying that she won’t love the person you are. Cause you’re, for quite possibly lack of a better word, the shit. You’re most probably that diamond in the rough, the needle in the hay stack (GOD I’M CORNY). But the only problem is the hay stack… its the rough… its the 50 million other guys that are trying to get the pretty girl’s attention. But luckily you have one distinct advantage, You’re better than him. Now don’t go flaunting that little tidbit around, that one’s just for you. Just don’t forget it.

Going back to the situation. You have a girl you want to talk to, no matter the place, and you don’t know what to do or say. Here’s your best bet for a first move.

… ready?

… You sure?

… Come on really? Its difficult.

… Last Chance!

… Here we go.

SAY HELLO

Now the next step is up to you, Mr. Confident. Feel out the situation, this is where I’m gonna let you be yourself. One thing works for one guy, and will make another crash and burn. Personally I do have some what of something I like to follow, but here are some do’s and don’ts:

Don’t:

  1. Neg her - Don’t make fun of her, unless its well… in good humor.
  2. Tell her (hair, eyes, dress) is beautiful - Unless its unusual for the scene your in (i.e.blue eyes with black hair, mohawk, prom dress in a barnes and noble)
  3. Touch her anywhere inappropriate (NO assgrabbing, NO boob grabs, NO FACETOUCHING)
  4. Lean in to say something. Just speak loudly (she’ll lean in to you)
  5. Hit on her friends. EVER. Jealousy doesn’t work when you first meet someone.

Do:

  1. Say Hello - Most people don’t even get past this step
  2. Compliment her - Something that most people don’t notice (i.e. watch, purse, eye brows) My eyes were floating from a woman’s eyes once, she obviously thought I was looking at her endowments. But I then complimented her on her collar bone, I don’t know why I was transfixed. She was THRILLED.
  3. Touch her appropriately. Treat her like your best friend. Arms are always appropriate, just don’t hold hands unless you know the time is right. Touching will always create some sort of bond.
  4. Talk to her friends. ALL of them, not just the women. She’s always looking for reassurance that you’re a cool guy.
  5. Call her - Dear Christ! Call her! There are no rules, just do it. They love it. You love seeing her. DO IT
  6. End it - Tell her you have to go somewhere else (talk to friends or meet with people). Invite her if you want exchange numbers. BUT YOU DO IT.


Most Importantly… BE YOURSELF. These do’s and don’ts are merely to give yourself a chance, a fighting one at that. Its just easier when you don’t have to keep on thinking if what you’re doing is right. Get the first conversation right, and she’ll be thinking “He had me at Hello” and then won’t you be glad you said hi.

Best of luck gents!

-Chivalry


∞ 3 years ago